I’ve never been one to be good about comforting people about the lost of a loved one. I never know what to say or what to do but I always want to be there for them I just don’t know how. I know he’ s in a better place with his family but I want him to be here with us on earth as selfish as that may sound. Its crazy because I only knew him for about a year but he always seemed to be a happy person with a big grin on his face. He was kind and funny and he always seemed like a truly genuine person. He always said hi to me when he saw me and gave me a hug. I can remember our last encounter during finals week when I ran into him at the SLC and he looked like a bear with all his facial hair. It makes me smile thinking about it but I knew we were both taking 3 finals in the coming days and I wished him luck as he went on his way.
It makes you think: what you would do if you knew that this was the last time you would ever see him? Would you hug him a little longer, chat him up more, let him smoke the bowl a little more than you. Would you try to hold on to the memories you both shared no matter how small they were?
I remember we were both leaving the Loft one night and he was like “Pam!! I haven’t seen you in so long!” and that just made me smile. He was so happy (partly because of obvious reasons) but idk it made me happy that he was so happy, its like it rubbed off on me. He was so hyped about their probate and that his car was gonna be in it.
I was reading all the things people said about him on his facebook and its crazy to see that just a few days ago he was writing on his own wall. It makes me realize how short life can be and how fast it can easily be taken from you. Learn to cherish every moment with someone no matter how small it is. This makes me think about a lot of things in my life that don’t matter as much as I make them out to be. I’ve realized more and more that I should care less about the materialistic stuff and more about the relationships I have with those that I love. To stop with all the bickering and nonsense, and just take the time to be with others. To build on the relationships you have and be thankful for all the people that truly care about you. To be happy and appreciative and thankful because we never know when our time will come. With every loss, we gain something from that person and we never forget them and how they’ve impacted our lives.
R.I.P. Bhavin Patel, a great brother and friend to all who crossed his path